LIFE EXPERIENCE

Why do people get married? Why is marriage important?

Not long after I got married, I was very uncomfortable sleeping with my wife. I suddenly woke up in the middle of the night and found that there was a person next to me so close to me. He was so close to me with his little hands wrapped around my hands. I couldn’t turn over freely. You can’t snore as much as you want, because you will be pinched by a gentle hand, and finally awakened…
Until now, I’m used to having someone next to me when I’m sleeping. Once I’m on a business trip or when I’m out for work, I’m half awake at night and hear my own snoring. I wonder why I don’t have that warm little hand to wake me up, and I’m accustomed to leaning and groping. As I read, I found a large icy area, and my mood would suddenly become empty.
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After getting married, my wife’s mother’s cancer worsened, persisted for a few months, and left. One night, when I woke up in the middle of the night, my wife was beside me with her back to me, turning her head and sobbing silently. I hugged her, she curled up in my arms, tears wet my arms. I hugged her tightly.
Once on the bus, I was accidentally closed by the driver ahead of time, the back of my hand was pinched by the heavily closed car door, bloody, her eyes were red, and she yelled at the driver. For the first time, I saw her self-confidently, so Excited.
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Our child was born and grew so well that she was not strong. She was too tired to deal with it. When she urinated, she sprained her waist. She insisted on sitting upright on the ground, holding the child tightly with both hands.

As a result, I sprained my waist and injured my sciatic nerve. I was paralyzed in bed for a week and was almost unable to sit up. I asked for leave, fed her food, helped her wipe her body, filled the child with milk, and put the child to sleep, so I was so busy.

In my spare time, I put the sleeping child on the small bed next to me, sat next to her, and helped her peel the apple. She looked at the ceiling and said, what if she can’t get up again in the future. I said, I will leave you immediately and find a young, beautiful, rich and kind stepmother for the child. Don’t worry, you will not drag us down. She laughed and said viciously, dare you. Then, she took my cut apple and looked at me, both of them laughed.

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As the child grew up, I became busy with work and worked overtime continuously. Even in the middle of the night, I frequently answered the phone, coordinated the production, and insisted on not asking for leave. Finally, a high fever broke out, and when I was paying for the injection at the community hospital, I convulsed and fell to the ground. In the nurse’s urgent questioning, when the paramedic carried a stretcher and rushed to the ambulance transferred to the big hospital, I stumbled out the number of her who I remember the most.

After I was hospitalized, I had been injecting various anti-inflammatory and anti-fever injections for several hours, feeling that people were burning and swollen, and I finally regained consciousness. I vaguely saw her sitting next to me, her hands warm, tightly wrapping me cold injection Hands.

In the next few days, my work phone was overwhelming. My hands were swollen and I couldn’t pick up the phone. She was full of resentment and didn’t want to answer it. But under the gaze of my pleading, she only frequently picked up my phone, turned on the speakerphone, and put it on. Next to my pillow, I have to hold a pen to help me record on paper.

Various leaders kept inquiring and explaining various things, and a dozen of them lasted for one or two hours. There are dozens of incoming and outgoing calls a day, and the mobile phone must be charged all the time, otherwise the battery will not be enough. Even in the middle of the night, the phone still rang from time to time. I was too tired during the day and fell asleep at night, and I couldn’t answer it. The next day, she listened to the leader’s loud reprimand on the phone, why I did not answer the phone at night, which caused production problems, and asked me to go back to the factory and must write a deep inspection. She turned pale with anger next to her. After she hung up the phone for me, I looked at her apologetically, and her tears rolled in her eyes.


I smiled bitterly, it’s okay, the leader just wants to vent. She said, don’t do this job. I looked at her without making a sound and nodded. After I was cured, the leader asked me to submit a deep inspection, I submitted my resignation application and left after a month. The leader said that someone like you has no management skills. The society outside is so complicated and the competition is so fierce. You can’t find a better job than this. Beware of unemployment. I smiled and put my resignation application on his desk. Turned and left. ……………………

My wife took care of all the housework and took care of the children, and I started looking for work and studying.

Find an interbank job with a salary 20% lower than before and start again. The factory is far away from home, and it takes 6 hours to go back and forth on the road every day. Very busy, I have to go early and return late. Very tired, I don’t have enough time to sleep every day.

During the day, I was fully wounded, and shuttled to various meetings to deal with urgent matters. On the swaying bus, I listened to English and watched the management video. I had a headache and lost weight like crazy. I lost more than ten kilos in a few months.

For fear of the child’s noise, she and the child share a room, and I sleep in a separate room.

When I came back at night, I continued to study until late at night. She came over and said that she would go to bed first, and I said yes. When I finished my studies, I went to her room with the child, leaned over and kissed the child and her cheek, helped her and the child make a quilt, and went back to my room to sleep.

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A year and a half later, the headhunter called me and the salary for the new job increased by 50%.

Two years later, the headhunter called me and the salary for the new job increased by 40%.

Another year and a half later, the headhunter called me and the salary for the new job increased by 40%.

Another year and a half later, the headhunter called me and the salary for the new job increased by 40%.

We bought a new house, bought a car, and started traveling abroad once a year…

She and I, no matter whether it is difficult or happy, support each other, year after year…

Before I knew it, I had been married for more than ten years. One night, I suddenly woke up and she blocked my mouth again. She grunted and rolled over, and you started snoring again. I smiled and held her back in my arms… She shrank in my arms, really warm… I hugged her tightly…

…Parents are a wall blocking life and death…

…Children are the light of hope to inherit ideals…

…And my wife is a partner who accompanies me to grow up, mature to old age, and will always accompany me and walk down together…

Samuel Whyte

A psychology enthusiast, interested in movies, painting,psychology, hiking, workout etc.

Speaks Chinese and English.

Currently lives in Shanghai, China.

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