LIFE EXPERIENCE

What did you learn from previous relationships?

The essence of marriage is cooperation. If you get along with the attitude of controlling each other, you will definitely fail.


In fact, everyone wants to control something in their hearts, both men and women. Because the feeling of not being in control of life can make people feel that life is very variable, and feel very anxious and fearful. If everything develops as you want, you will feel safe.


If the heart is more inferior, the desire to control will be stronger. Marriage can only be a cooperative relationship, not a relationship of control and control. Once a person wants to become an authority in this marriage, it will definitely not be a good thing.

One party has absolute authority, and the other party will not get the respect that people deserve, or even become cringe. Even when a person with authority engages in physical or mental violence, the other party even suffers from Stockholm syndrome because of fear.

The essence of marriage is cooperation. If you get along with the attitude of controlling each other, you will definitely fail.
In fact, everyone wants to control something in their hearts, both men and women. Because the feeling of not being in control of life can make people feel that life is very variable, and feel very anxious and fearful. If everything develops as you want, you will feel safe.
If the heart is more inferior, the desire to control will be stronger. Marriage can only be a cooperative relationship, not a relationship of control and control. Once a person wants to become an authority in this marriage, it will definitely not be a good thing.
One party has absolute authority, and the other party will not get the respect that people deserve, or even become cringe. Even when a person with authority engages in physical or mental violence, the other party even suffers from Stockholm syndrome because of fear.


If a family has too much male power, the status of women will be weak, life will tend to be rough, and women will tend to objectify themselves. If a family has too much feminism, the status of men will be weak, and life will easily become bitter. If a couple wants to control each other and wants each other to follow their own pace, it will be difficult for them to get along well.

When both parties do not feel that the other party is controlling themselves or feel that they are too humble, both parties feel that they are needed and valuable. A marriage based on this attitude is healthy, long-lasting and obtainable. happy marriage.

Especially when the so-called “dopamine passion” fades, relationships that can’t cooperate will inevitably fail, and relationships that can cooperate can last.

Learning to give is very important, and you can’t always think about making the other party give.

Society has taught us reality, but in marriage, in the family, reality is actually quite sad. In marriage, those who learn to give proactively are the winners in this relationship.

Samuel Whyte

A psychology enthusiast, interested in movies, painting,psychology, hiking, workout etc.

Speaks Chinese and English.

Currently lives in Shanghai, China.

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