Marriage is actually not like a date, or a relationship. Which means we should take it more seriously.
Marriage experts in the United States once listed in the “New York Times” 15 questions that must be asked before getting married. I will share with you guys here.
1. Do we want children? If so, who is mainly responsible?
2. What are our earning power and goals? Will there be conflicts between consumption and savings views?
3. How to maintain our family? Who will control the possible risks?
4. Have we exchanged the disease history of both parties in detail? Including spiritual.
5. Has the attitude of our parents met our expectations? Will you give enough blessings? If not, how do we face it?
6. Do we speak naturally and honestly about our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
7. Can I put a TV in the bedroom? (It refers to all the differences in living habits, such as different opinions about keeping pets, different tastes, sleep snoring, one love to clean up the other)
8. Can we really listen to what the other party says and treat each other’s thoughts and complaints fairly?
9. Do we clearly understand each other’s spiritual needs and beliefs? Have we discussed the future education model for children?
10. Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
11. Can we value and respect each other’s parents? Have we considered that our parents might interfere in our relationship?
12. What is the most annoying thing about my family?
13. What are the things we will never give up because of marriage?
14. If one of us needs to leave his family home and accompany the other to work abroad, can we do it?
15. Are we confident that we will face any challenges to keep the marriage going?
The answers of above questions is necessary, I suppose.