Actually this is how I thought:
I believe that unexpressed emotions become stored in the body as muscle tension.
When you hear a song reminding you of a tough breakup, do your shoulders automatically lift and do your hands turn into fists?
Have you ever taken a hip-opener yoga course and were puzzled by why you were filled with strange emotions afterwards?
Have you noticed that painful knot in your neck on the Friday after a stressful week?
These are all locked up emotions wanting to get out of our bodies.
We’ve all seen what happens with another opposite form of emotional expression, namely blindly expressing them. Especially the dark and dishonored ones. This can happen especially after a prolonged experience of bottling them in.
According to the late neuropharmacologist Candace Pert, the “body is your subconscious mind. Our physical body can be changed by the emotions we experience.”
An example would be the emotion of “shame.” It triggers inflammatory chemicals which can also be triggered when we have an infection to fight – a fever. Amazing! Our body responds to infection and shame in the same -‘things are getting hot in here’- manner.
How then do we tap into and express our emotional body that, if unlocked properly, contains loads of brilliant information. Emotions deserve to be treated as your allies. They can reveal creative solutions to any situation.
A few steps can be taken to release unresolved emotion:
Find a daily physical practice you enjoy. For me, this is yoga.
Receive regular bodywork. Therapeutic massage and bodywork are some of the most effective ways I’ve seen (and experienced) for releasing stored emotion. I vividly remember my first massage after a traumatic injury that had me off of work for 2 years. It felt like I was back in the ambulance en route to the hospital.
Make touch a part of your primary relationships. We have become a very hands-off culture. Make a point of greeting friends with a hug. Play contact sports. Have more sex.
When we begin to remember that we are not just minds stuck inside a body, but body and mind working in concert, we can begin to heal old hurts in a deeper and lasting way.
All the best for the positive fire within you!